The Power of the Tongue: Why Our Speech Matters

It looks so innocent. That tongue of yours. You often focus on its part in helping you taste the deliciousness of the delicious dinner, or you stick it out playfully at your spouse. But that little, sometimes forgotten, part of your body is one powerful tool.

The tongue is so notable that the Bible has a vast number of things to say about it. Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) states that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” and Proverbs 21:23 tells us that we should keep guard over our words to keep our souls from trouble. The New Testament also speaks of the importance of words. For example, Ephesians 4:29 encourages us to speak words that are helpful instead of corrupt.

Why does God emphasize the importance of such a small part of our body? Because the tongue has incredible power. Our words have meaning. We can use our words to encourage others, to communicate love, or to bring light into a dark place.

But we can also use words to discourage people from pursuing their dreams or even pursuing God. We can speak hatred into someone’s life or be a conduit of gossip. We can also say words that can create insecurities, and emotional triggers, and even promote self-harm. Damage that can last a lifetime.

The Bible makes it clear that we are accountable for the words we speak. In Matthew 12:36-37 (NIV), Jesus says, “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted and by your words you will be condemned.” That is a powerful reminder that our words matter, not just in the moment, but in eternity.

God doesn’t overlook careless speech, slander, or gossip. What we say reveals what’s in our hearts, and we will answer for it. This is meant to provoke us to awareness and intentionality because when we recognize that our words carry spiritual weight, we will hopefully start using them more wisely. We can use them to build up, and to bless, and to reflect the love and truth of Christ.

But what if I can’t stop?

If you have a difficult time bridling your tongue, consider seeking professional help from a licensed therapist. Learning how to exercise self-control in communication is a life skill that can positively impact every area of your life from your spiritual walk, to your marriage, and even to your career.

A therapist can teach you how to recognize what lies beneath the surface, what triggers responses or angry outbursts, and help you develop healthier ways to express your feelings.

But what if I’m hurting?

If you’ve been wounded by words in the past, therapy can also be a space where healing begins. Sometimes you don’t realize just how much past criticism, verbal abuse or rejection still echoes in your heart until you start unpacking it with someone who will listen with compassion and offer wise counsel.

Moving On

Learning how to control your tongue and healing from damage done by those who couldn’t can be life-changing. It can impact your relationships, career, marriage and life. Don’t underestimate the power of your tongue. It’s small but mighty. It’s capable of being a weapon or a witness. Choose to speak life and healing into other people’s lives daily because you never know just how your words may affect them.